Why Starting Before You’re “Ready” Is The Secret To Success

IMG_6250.jpg

Taking action before you’re ready is like the magic elixir for success. It trains you to realise that nobody ever feels ‘ready’. No one successful, who you look up to or admire, ever reached a point where they said, “Ok…Ok, now I’m ready, I’ll do the thing!” Hell no. 

They had an idea, a lot of determination to see it through, and they took a leap of faith. They acted on their confidence and belief it would work out, rather than waiting for a moment where it felt “easy”, or “comfortable” and like they were “ready” to let it all fall into place. 

When you start out doing something new it is scary. It’s daunting. You might have the fear of failure rolling about in your head. But then so did everyone who ever started something. You have to be willing to feel scared; scared it won’t work out, or fear that you’ll embarrass yourself. If you’re not scared or nervous about diving into something, then you don’t care enough about it. Taking chances should feel exhilarating and a little frightening. 

You will never reach great heights if you don’t first climb the mountain, fraught with the chance of stumbling or losing your footing along the way.

I love the saying “if your dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough.” I clung to this during times of my life where I was terrified of the risks, and leaps of faith I was taking. I felt reassured because my dreams scared the shit out of me, so I knew I was challenging myself enough.

When you think about it, what are you even risking? That some strangers will judge you? Ok. That you’ll be embarrassed? Of what? Of trying something daring and ambitious? You’ll recover. The worst case scenario, when you actually think about it, write it down or say it out loud…usually isn’t that bad. 

You won’t die. So, you’re fine. It’s scary but it’s also fun and exciting and you owe it to yourself to go after things that gives you the heebies in a good way.

Life is scary. Putting yourself out there is scary. Admitting you want more for yourself or your career is scary, but it’s also thrilling. Once you take the leap you can see the big lofty dreams you thought were so out of your reach are actually pretty close, and with every step you take towards your true purpose and calling, the big dream comes into focus more and more. 

Soulful Goal Setting; How To Feel Fulfilled Every Day

With 2019 now well and truly upon us, I’ve been thinking a lot about my goals for the year. It’s so easy to get sucked into the old “New Year, New Me” craze that sweeps through the last week of December and into January. 

While the new year is a great time to sweep out the metaphorical spiderwebs, and feel like you’re having a fresh start, there are certain ways of thinking about your goals that can inspire you to follow through.

I was first introduced to a soulful way of goal setting by Danielle LaPorte. I’ve been a huge fan ever since I discovered and read her book “The Desire Map”.

Her philosophy is centred around how chasing your goals makes you feel. She isn’t solely concerned with the outcome or end result, but instead encourages you to focus on how this goal makes you feel. She’s all about enjoying the process, with fulfilling the goal a bonus.

There is no point in training for a marathon, if you hate running. The thrill and pride of completing a marathon would be amazing, but if each training run fills you with dread, what’s the point? Instead, you could set a modest goal for running, say once or twice a week, with a view to completing a much smaller race first.

Changing your goal from a marathon, to adopting a running habit, means you can feel a sense of achievement after each run, and any races you work up to is the cherry on top!

I am a recovering unrealistic goal setter, so I absolutely understand wanting to declare to the world you’re going to achieve these incredible things, and then realise you didn’t quite consider the dedicated every day effort they could take. 

If you’re only striving to reach the end, and pass the finish line, you’ll have a momentary high before you start chasing the next goal. 

But if how you want to feel is at the forefront of your mind, you’ll live your life in a joyful state every day. Whether you achieve your desired goal starts to matter less, because the process is so enjoyable. 

This way of considering goals has really helped me. You can feel encouraged and proud of yourself after each yoga practise, language class, book read, or painting completed.

So, how do you want to feel in 2019? What steps could you take each day to get there? As my favourite yogi says, “find what feels good”, and strive to live your life joyfully.